If you try these ideas expecting no more than, well, a nice time, the time you and your partner spend together might be peaceful or pleasant, or maybe enjoyable even. I feel like I'm in limbo. I just love her more than anything and right now she cant feel it or reciprocate it. This after passionately expressing his love for me 2 days before. Trust me, this is going to blow you away. And your side of the story as a person with the same mental illness is yours. Placing the infuriating and frustrating behavior within the context of the disorder can help you place the blame with the disease, not the person.
He says we are okay — but he is not. It's like I want to be there, then I'm a jerk, then I get weird if I have to sleep alone she doesn't always like to wake up to my early alarm. I met him in February things were going well. That's why people don't like I think. He dumps me saying he lied and mislead me and that he needs to work on himself so we no longer can be together. Depression also makes it very hard for us to make decisions or take action, and we try to avoid them at all costs.
I completely lost sight of the fact that no matter what the future holds, the only thing I have the power to change is my own actions and attitudes. Post Views: 22,488 Views Self-awareness and healthy boundaries are key to maintaining strong relationships with your significant others, family and friends when mood swings threaten to pull you apart. When their not receptive and it pushes them away even more, I get pissed, and say things I later regret. He just dumped me after 3 years with no explanation. Maybe other people have found similar things about themselves.
I am also sorry I, like many others with this diagnosis, understand sacrifice more than you will ever know. So there can be an indirect fear or even a direct one. Confusingly, your partner can appear and sound perfectly normal and rational even if they are depressed. They also change careers, college majors and field of interests frequently. So we meet at a Dunkin Donuts and she told me she blacked out on Wed Eve of Thanksgiving and had a one night stand and that her therapist said she is likely manic depressive. The fact is, a person in the throes of Borderline Personality Disorder is incapable of adult emotional intimacy, because the very nature of the disorder decrees that they have not matured enough emotionally to the degree that is required to have emotionally healthy adult intimacy. I love him so much and I know he loves me to.
We think and feel more deeply and widely. Not because you did anything. That fairy tale of the perfect connection can often turn into endless turmoil, explosive drama. I moved back after and all in all he was still blaming me for the cop episode. I did jot listen i stuck with him , kept getting the shit from him in all forms even when i found his sexual addiction through the hypersexuality stage. For us it feels as if someone is beating us on the head with a very big stick. Whether you can cope with keeping company with your partner in this way depends on your expectations.
Its almost like he knew he was cycling into depressed, incredible hulk mode, and held on to cycle out but I eventally called him to bring my stuff over. This balancing act that characterizes most early dating scenes often evolves into romantic patterns that plague many ongoing relationships. Because there is a fine line between support and harassment, you are going to have to monitor what you are doing and how your partner is reacting. You have to look at your personality, your way of being, and really look at who you are as a person and evaluate whether you are being annoying, or needy, or whatever. On his birthday eve, his car broke down.
Yes there have been yelling matches, but nothing as explosive as this past week. I never know what mood she will wake up in and I have to creep around the house so as not to disturb her because she needs 12 hours sleep a day. Focus on changing the dance, not on changing your partner. Make time at least once a week to go out with other friends for a drink and some laughter. Please do not assume this of everyone. For example, a couple can designate an hour, an afternoon, or a day in which one person gets to decide what they do and whether they do it together.
Consumer 0 Posts: 3 Joined: Sun Jul 02, 2017 2:14 am Local time: Mon Feb 25, 2019 1:25 am Blog: Hey Wunjo, Wanting space is not inherently a problem, but two things - 1. When she has an episode, she wants to get a divorce. This is what I hear you saying in your words …. Not letting or wanting them near me and when the chaos subsides, I start to pull them back close to me. Why say he was working till midnight again, that leads me to believe he worked Thursday night so why not tell me then. The earlier you catch the potential breakup of the relationship, the more likely the following suggestions are to work. Check with other people to see what they think.
But it still feels nice to know that someone is around — that C. Mad is an understatement for me. I'm at this point where I think the true me is a bit of a loner. In my own marriage, we suffered through years of what often becomes one of the most hurtful and significant battles in a relationship: the initiation question and the way it is answered. Now I am not trying to sound holier-than-thou, but I really feel it is a cop-out to say depression alone prevents you from realizing and caring about the effects of your behavior on others. The symptoms of dissociation become severe during depression.