He was looking at something on his phone this is a work phone when I got up he hurried and turned it over. Did he just lie, or did he cheat? I have seen very wealthy and powerful people literally spending millions of dollars on sex, drugs, and rock and roll—all the while being in the midst of a marriage with children. Looking at nasty stuff or talking with someone. Why do they do this to us. This doesn't make them weak.
He has met all of my friends but for some reason he never allowed me to meet his so called female friends that he had inappropriate interactions with in which I confronted him about. Life is life shit gets complicated were all human we all make mistakes. Or if I see some skinny girl walking by my mind says I bet he likes that. Perhaps you need to release your anger or sadness. We have been together almost 33 years now. It is hell on earth.
Just one question: Everything I described the lying, the apology letter, etc happened in August. For my fiance, both lying and masturbation were deal breakers. I keep asking myself does heneed help or is it just an excuse. I am in a total disarray. There are no divorces in my family - none.
Communication is more open than closed. So we ended up going to marriage counseling for nine months. Mine was deleting text strings so it appeared that there was no communication. Oh, and if you haven't seen the movie Shirley Valentine, watch it for inspiration! I use to have a key to his house but after this mess I got my stuff out of his house and gave his key back. Put one foot in front of the other and go. Your blessing will come, and once you let go of this relationship.
Well he said it was a site a coworker sent him that has stories from people like they have in playboy. Its not easy to begin with and if you keep nagging your husband about it, it would be impossible. He is a good man. She'd like to begin to rebuild trust with Paul-- even after his lying. The best advice i can give to you is to not give up just yet.
As I got older, I felt more ashamed and I have been trying to stop especially when im in a relationship. It was never over sweetheart. You know what you need from him and your relationship If your boyfriend travels for work or spends a lot of time with his friends, you may need him to put you first more often. Yes I am trying to do the best I can. Depending on the severity of the lies you can simply try to slowly build up the trust again by building an honest relationship with them. Im tired of crying everynight over the lies, I cant even trust him when hes going outside, I feel lile hes talking to someone out there. Far better to have the strength and courage to raise a child solo while learning a host of skills as opposed to be a fretting stepford wife.
For example a wife discovers her husband of 10 years has been cheating on her. He had a one night stand that i found out about because even though being with her was a one night stand, he kept in touch with her for a month. It will break down mental barriers and give you the inspiration you need to go ahead with the challenge. Dated for 3 and in Oct. Your own peace of mind is most important.
I choose to trust Ike despite what he did. Some excuses or compensations look very believable but boy… if you find later again that those were just lies,…. But please go read some of the advice that was given here for me. Decide that you are worth something, at least for you and most likely for others. I would have a hard time trusting him too.
I worked on two of my biggest fears. As Cindy feels more and more trusting about her life overall, she is better able to make note of the ways that Paul is trying to demonstrate his trustworthiness to her. If the answer to the latter is yes, you may want to dig for more information. What will I lose if I let go? I am at the point where I am tired and all I want is peace. He talked to you about it, it gives me some clarity that men can be honest and own up.
Everything i do is for him. He screwed up when he lied and betrayed me. His attitude now has gotten so bad because of my questions and accusations, that we dont really stand a chance. We have a lot of mutual friends and one of them is my good friend,we studied together in our first year. So that is what I am going to do.