I mean, what do we really learn? That is exactly where we have to draw the line! Are you thinking about what will happen when you, say, present your work at an industry workshop? Make sure it is very well made or has a discreet plastic coating, because otherwise it rips fine hairs out. Others choose a symbol that is meaningful to them but may not actually be a collar, like a bracelet or anklet or other such, though that seems less common. I wonder if people will ever learn… Some people make it look like some sick game of Oppression Olympics. Training collars are typically unattractive and rather sturdy. Or that painting your nails certain colors meant something? Call me boring, but I love how simple it is and how it makes me feel just a teensy bit more dressed up than I would sans jewelry. This is really important to both of us, and we take it very seriously — we think of the collar as akin to a wedding ring, representing our mutual trust, support, devotion, and love for each other within this lifestyle. I met someone at work and her very subtle collar necklace immediately jumped out to me because she was quite a bit older.
No one ever calls me out on wearing the same jewellery every single day for well over a decade now! Which I think is what is coming out of this thread. It denotes a deep commitment between the submissive and dominant, and from the moment the collar is locked in place, the dominant is viewed as the submissive's master or mistress. But out would be out and out explicit to anyone who knew what the different colors meant and what you did to get them. Multiple employees ended up addressing the situation by getting tattoos on their left ring finger of a wedding band, an infinity symbol, or something along those lines. Maybe there will be a day when he thinks I am ready for that and I'll do it.
I devote time and care into each piece, knowing it is making a statement and has special meaning. Since this is a long-term decision, I think going with something that is entirely symbolic is probably the safest option. The Kitty dynamic does mean that he spoils and pets me a lot though : and being a cat he knows he has to looks after me just as I provide him pleasure and comfort. A wedding ring is a great analogy. The collar you wear is a symbol to the Dominant that they dominate you. Given it is very easy to get a refund with any purchase made with paypal, your purchases there are safer than any you make most anywhere else.
I was thinking that a collar is no different than a wedding ring, so thanks for explaining the difference. What gives you the right to judge about how other people live their lifes? Bold enough for a Dominant. It probably took two years of managing my subordinate to realize it was a collar, and that was only after running into her at the gym with her hair pulled back and a sports bra on. But a lot of stuff that would be plausibly deniable to a vanilla person would be a neon sign to me, and it would make me feel uncomfortable if I had to work closely with you. In both cases, people make nasty judgements and can be pretty discriminatory. They are just displaying their affection for their partner who is not just a sexual partner. People judge the unfamiliar and not-norm, especially if sex is involved.
Submissive jewelry products are most popular in Western Europe, North America, and Oceania. When I should be focusing on a medical emergency they have butted into my tragedy and demanded attention for their personal kink. And there have been examples in this thread of stuff that looks like jeweled necklaces that sit above the collarbone, and are secured by a jump ring instead of a clasp. Even the pictures in the google link look a bit much to be wearing as a daily piece at work. But, do I see any problem with wearing sexy underwear under your work clothes as part of a healthy sexual relationship? I can see why people would be uncomfortable, though, and if I was aware of it, I probably would be, too.
A collar that passes is a high quality chain maille — like Byzantium pattern — or a snake pattern gold chain. They also change over time — hopefully, including promotions. I would go for a thinner one that rides lower on the neck, and probably one of the flexible ones rather that just a metal ring. As you can see there are almost limitless uses for variety of collars you can find if you do some shopping. Keep your pervert rings for the bedroom, you creepy married people. A collar is a symbol and you can use anything you want to express it- including an anklet, a ring, a tattoo, a chain, a bracelet. In this case, sexual or political or etc messages are not socially innocuous and can have a very negative impact on work.
I doubt anyone will question it. Some people draw up a that defines the relationship in explicit detail. You should ask yourself these questions about any idea or practice you are considering: Will it benefit me, my partner and our relationship? Now, if it were a dog collar type looking collar, I would think huh, interesting choice of jewelry. There are more than several examples pictured in the link that would work. David Yurman has a very kinky subtle thing going on, with the twisted rope and big hook. And our products are always popular in world marketing.
So… locks no; leather and steel, no. If you are wearing something that looks like jewelry, you are fine. The people who have a problem with your necklace would probably find some other reason to have a problem with you anyway. Rich sterling silver measures approx. If you really want it to look more like a collar, what about one for your ankle? The 'Training' collar is offered by the Dominant after they have engaged in a period of time where they have held extensive conversations with the submissive and explored characteristics, traits, interests, desires and lifestyles to see if slave sub is worthy of Masters time. But that really only works if it actually looks like a necklace and you treat it exactly like a necklace if anyone asks about it. Let me put it another way.
You can find gifts that will mean something special to them if you'd like, but don't expect that anything you give will have the same meaning as the collar you have. Is that any different to a discrete collar? I never brought any of this up and in fact would pretty much feel mute in the face of both her collar and the discussion about it, which was very judgy. You have no further information than that. You could also get several different ones, if you want to switch it in and out? If anything, they flaunt it! I think a lot of us here are making assumptions without having first hand experience in this subject. Comparing a collar to a wedding ring is just silly because one is considered professionally normal, another is not. Offering professional one-on-one service and replying your E-mail within three hours 4.