I was an A student, was popular. Talking about her diary, that's like policing her transitory thoughts. If he felt like she was in danger, then a look at her journal seems more justified. Con: I'll feel old fraternizing with Gen Yers. To me, that sounds like an unfair, unhealthy friendship. A lot of young guys stomp on women's feelings without ever knowing it.
Second - depending on what you wrote there, you might consider burning that diary. And then give you a big hug. So your both in the wrong but who is more in the wrong i cannot answer cause you both have a equal share on this one. I don't even read what I wrote, ever. Now if I had done this, I have to admit I would probably be honest about it. The late night texting is definitely wrong though, and it needs to stop. Also am i a bad person? I also think that not writing stuff like this down would cause me to keep thinking about it over and over, making something a bigger deal than it is.
You might have an argument with her and then go play a melancholy song until you're over it. Looking back at some of my post I forgot how good it felt to write. That and you two have had a break. She obviously did it with someone else, but won't do it with you? Obviously, I didn't want him to see the list, so I'd stuffed it between old towels in the linen closet. These were periods when I was getting little or no communication from them and I justified my actions to myself by saying that I had a right to know what they were doing and if they would not talk to me then I had a right and an obligation to find out in any way I could. Privacy, even if it is innocent privacy, may raise suspicion of secret thoughts. A couple of things happened during this exchange.
What the father gains is a glimpse into her private life and a chance to intervene if she is in some kind of danger. I feel that if someone had looked, they would have known I needed help then. So far, I have been right on, and we've been lucky. I have never truly trusted men again after this incredible invasion to my privacy. And, did it ever occur to your partner that what's in his daughter's journal is not true -- that she's using it to try on stances. So many things have happened in the lifespan of two or so months.
Ten pages out of 250 is not that much, and it sounds like it wasn't an unfair reaction to a specific catalyst, like cancelling plans, and was right - we all think about breaking up from time to time. After all if you told him back then he could have decide whether to go forward with the relationship or not. Tonight, I was hanging out with my boyfriend at his house, and I saw it on his nightstand! I had never been with a girl or known anybody for that matter that loved writing as much as she did. I can't explain the pain I felt at that moment. Oh god i really dont want to break up with her, i really do love her and would rather kill myself than lose her but i feel sick when ever i think of the diary, and everytime i look into her eyes i can hear her writing into her diary. I think you should just break up, you are so focused on winning the argument, it isn't you vs. On top of all that, people in general you, me, the guy on the bus tend to reflect on negative things rather than positive things.
If i speak dirty to her like the letters were written she looks at me like im weird. Then again, you deserve the feelings you're having right now. I see journal writing as a way of safely exploring one's inner life, safely experimenting with attitudes and opinions. Use this experience to figure out what kind of boyfriend you want. Forget about what you found in her diary. Only, I wrote about a dream I had and got questioned cuz they assumed it was true.
We are currently having a tough time overcoming an issue. You should give yourself time to think this through. But he was kind and hilarious and brought me flowers. After all, it's not like you were going to be honest with him. Have you ever had a tantrum, a really terrible day where you go scream in a pillow and punch the bed and feel better after? The place where I could put down all the things that I never wanted to say to anyone. Anyway, I read about half of it, and it was just too tedious to go any further. Sounds like she just used the journal to vent.
The trust element is now not there at all for you with her, maybe the reason she is cross is because she got found it? My dad was constantly going into my room to read my diary, and I learned not to do that anymore. Anytime a woman holds back sexually for you when you know she didn't for someone else it's a big red-flag. Everything I have them, I intend on sharing. I slid it open and there was her diary, smiling at me. How do I know he is not doing other things behind my back. My girlfriend couldn't hear me, and because she could not see me, she was not able to see my non-verbals.